So, we had two days of services to honor my friend Bob.
Bob really liked to socialize. He had been through things that would break mere mortals into pieces. He had a purple heart and a bronze star pinned to his chest. In his youth he spent a month in the hospital over in Viet Nam followed by 2 months in Hawaii followed by a year in Portsmouth Naval.. Viet nam did things to him that I cannot fathom...Never once did he cry out in pain or complain while he was sick. In the end, his mind was COMPLETELY intact but his body gave way in what I would constitute as the absolute worst death I have ever witnessed.
My prayer was for mercy.
Anyhow, we had his memorial service last night followed by a wine reception in his home and it was absolutely lovely. His wife Sandra had gospel music played over the speaker system by Elvis. I forgot how he could really sing. His house was packed and the wine kept flowing. What a lovely memorial!
Switching gears...
I have the urge to spend some time alone in the water. It sure is cold (58 degrees) but that is why wetsuits were invented. I just want to clear my head. Maybe if I'm lucky I'll even catch a few waves.
Uh better skip it...I just checked the S Turns and the swell is 5 feet tomorrow morning but the sets come every 7 seconds. Lame....
I guess I'll take a bike ride at Seashore State park instead.
Fall for me is a time of death. I lose more friends and family in this time than every other season combined. I recognize that death is a part of life.
I carry many scars from lost relationships due to this "death" thing.
Fall just amplifies the pain.
I have been to three funerals this fall. I remember seeing these folks in the summer.
If I knew then what I know now.
Life is precious and so very beautiful. Enjoy each day.
Peace be with you,
Bobby
Hugs to you Bobby.
ReplyDeleteThank you Silvertag. I hope things are going well for you and those you love...
ReplyDeleteI really am so sorry. I relate to you. This time of year brings sadness in my life. If anything in my life could go wrong, it always did from October-December. I believe it is why I am not a fall/winter person. Give me summer with sunshine, days in the water. I am feeling the same as you, in that I want to just go. Go somewhere to be alone. To reflect. It is so hard losing someone you love. I love you my friend.
ReplyDeleteyour friend sounds like someone worth to remember... not everyone is. {{{hugs}}}
ReplyDeleteI feel your loss..I felt your pain and helplessness during the time Bob was struggling..peace be with him..death is just an end of a life on this plane but not of a friendship..our time is limited and that eventually all of us would end up underneath some sheet, never to wake up..
ReplyDeleteYou stood by him through his last days and that in itself is a great memory to cherish!
Carolina girl - You have been through your share of things too. Yep, I'm looking forward to spring and summer...
ReplyDeleteMinie - It as gruesome. Now that the dust has settled I am saddened.
Dorrie - His life got off to a rocky start but finished well...
Try to think of fall as a time of rest...just as your friends are now resting and at peace...fall is the time when trees and plants enter a state of rest,as we enter a time of reflection, as we store our energy and prepare for nasty old winter to rear its ugly head. I LOVE summer so much, but try to view fall as a time needed to allow what will eventually come our way in spring. Plant a few tulips and daffodils in memory of your friends Bobby. Then in spring you will be reminded of them once more as you view the colorful blossoms.
ReplyDeleteHello Bobby ~ that sounds like a wonderful memorial service for Bob.
ReplyDeleteWhat an excellant and beautiful idea Nantucket Daffodil wrote!
Being by the water, beaches, do help to clear our heads.
I go there alot to meditate and/or pray and always feel better. ((Big Hug)) from Sunny
I am thinking of you as you take this journey my friend. Getting some time to pace things out ( or swim, or bike) helps settle that clenching inside. I appreciate and understand your disquiet. I wish peace for you, too. Maggs
ReplyDeleteMy hart goes out to you I know the pain of loss in abundance and the one thing I can say is: people really do live forever in our hearts, minds and the million stories we tell to our new and old friends, our kids and people we love.
ReplyDeleteTake care of you!
Also thank you for being the first person to leave me a comment on my blog. I never thought there was someone out there really reading it.
Thank you
Danielle
Hugs to you Bobby~
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